Major Focus of African Relationship between Man and Woman

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Most African tradition demands the presence of extended family relations before certain stage of the marriage process will be take place. Going back home to involve extended family relations in a marriage process in African, makes it most difficult for either the man or woman to walk away from a marriage without a verifiable reason.
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Extreme adoption of Western ways of life is what degenerated to the fleshy ache experienced in the deteriorating African traditions. It is therefore most important that Africans intending to date first understand the major interest of African relationships. Courtship before marriage is ideal both in Africa and in the West.

The focus of both parties during courtship is what matters most. There is no way the real focus can be achieved without understanding the African marriage pattern. Western marriage pattern is quite different from African pattern. For example in the West, it does not matter to intending couples and their families where they met.

It does not count if the lady who is getting married knows any member of the guys family or not. Or if they get along well, what matters most is what the man feels for the lady. Maybe this is why a married man has the sole right to quit his wife from home whenever he feels tired of the relationship. Most times family members does not get involve strongly when their sons act that way. Because the family members did not involve themselves deeply from the onset.

In some cases it is the wife; a mother of kids walking away from home. It could be over a crime committed against her by her husband. Might also be a snag she feels as a result of her husband’s misconduct. All she does is contract the service of a legal practitioner who files for divorce. That ends the marriage, regardless of the marriage age.
In view of the above marriage pattern, parties in courtship have little or no caution to be careful of. The reverse is the case in Africa. No couple gets genuinely married in Africa without involving families of both parties. In some cases the lady, is mandated by tradition to visit and spend some time with the husband’s people. It is believe that the family she’s preparing to join should know her type of person. She should also know the family to some extent before her final decision of whether to marry or not.

Most African tradition demands the presence of extended family relations before certain stage of the marriage process will be take place. Going back home to involve extended family relations in a marriage process in African, makes it most difficult for either the man or woman to walk away from a marriage without a verifiable reason.

Therefore, it becomes most demanding of intending couples in the African setting to pay rapt attention to each other with a view to knowing partners well. This includes knowing where each other comes from, background and religious beliefs. They should also be keen enough to know their relatives.

Find out your partners attitude towards money, what are his long term goals and his approach towards pursuing them. How he handle provocation, how he handles extended families and lots more. He will treat your family members exactly the way he treats his.

Finally, men and women intending to marry in the African setting should work more on knowing each other down to the family and relative level. Avoid living under the illusion of marrying him or her alone. So you two can visit the entire recreational site around the world and build up plans that incorporate only you and your kids. Such narrow plan fails completely in Africa.

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